It was so fun getting prepared for Arlie. We spent a lot of time picking out clothes and furniture and all kinds of baby gear. This is a different experience. Not to say its not fun because it is, but it is also moving faster and we have less to buy. I don’t have as much free time as I did with Arlie to sit and wonder what it was going to be like. Or to worry, as the case may be.
I’m still excited. I’m still taking the moments I can to talk to bubs and bond with him. I’m sorting through clothes and looking up any products I wished I had with Arlie. But most of my time is spent running after Arlie and making sure she has what she needs. I read an article a few weeks ago about how to transition from one to two. There was one piece of advice that really stuck with me and that was to tend to the older child first (unless a dire situation is at hand) because the newborn won’t know the difference if they have to wait an extra minute, but the older child most definitely will know. This made perfect sense to me and it is probably something I will turn to frequently for the first few months after Tate is born.
I’m nervous about the transition. I want to be a good mom to both of them and I am really worried about how this will impact Arlie. She is way too young to understand what is happening and I hate that it will be hard for her at first. I am excited about having two, but the impact on our lives will be significant and preparing myself (and Arlie) for this is intimidating and worrisome.
The thing that is weighing most heavily on my mind is that Arlie will have to be away from me and M overnight for the first time in her life when Tate is born. That seriously makes me want to cry thinking about it. I am hoping that the birth is as easy as it was the first time and that I can send M home to stay with Arlie. I think the thing that worries me the most about it is if I go into labor in the middle of the night, we will have to take her to my parent’s house and it will be disconcerting for her. Plus, the fact that the next time I see her, I will be a mom of two. I struggle with the right way to make the transition easy on her. I struggle with the fact that I know I am going to love and adore this little man and that it may take away from my time with Arlie. These are the things that don’t really come up when you are first pregnant because it is so exciting that there will be a baby here in the near future.
Help me out guys…. If you have experience with going from one child to two, tell me how it went and what you did to make it a little easier on yourself, or what you would have done differently.