32 Weeks

I decided to do my post a little earlier this week than I normally do because of the holiday and the shower and everything else.  I figured I would take some time on Saturday evening to do another post about the shower too.  This week is going pretty well.  On Monday I had a routine appointment where the nurse practitioner told me (after a rather awkward external examination of my pelvis) that Arlie is definitely head down and ready to go.  It was actually kind of a funny moment because up until that point it was all casual and fine and then when she saw how low Arlie is, she started asking me all kinds of questions about how prepared I was.  I guess I satisfied her questioning because she seemed to ease up a bit after that.  I feel like I may be having Arlie early even if we don’t have a scheduled c-section.  She seems almost ready to be out of there and I would love to have her here.  I just need her to stay in there for a few more weeks. 5 would be nice.  Perhaps someone can pass her that memo….

We also met with the maternity care specialist at the hospital yesterday.  That was the highlight of all my appointments so far.  This lady was awesome and funny and had SO much information.  It was nice to have someone who actually seemed on top of her shit for once.  She helped us create a birth plan which was really nice because I have been struggling with that.  We also signed all the releases for Arlie, got her birth certificate applications, got a run-down of visiting hours, chose out support team (just M and my best friend K) and went over pretty much everything else.  We also got pre-registered, which was scary and so exciting.  Basically shit got real this week and we only have a few weeks to get everything done.  The good news is that her room is completely done (with the exception of washing the cloth diapers and any new clothes we get this weekend), the bags are packed, carseat will be installed by the weekend and house is almost in order.  Now we play the waiting game.  I hope we don’t have to wait too long.

How far along? 32 weeks 2 days
Total weight gain: 31 lbs.  No one seems concerned about it, except for me.  Plus, all my vitals are better than they were before I was pregnant, so I guess it’s no big deal.  I am dangerously close to 200 lbs now and that is terrifying.
Maternity clothes? All the time.  My favorite maternity jeans are starting to get a little uncomfortable.  I live in pj pants and athletic shorts at home.  I have also started breaking my own personal rule of wearing sweats or pj pants in public.  The shame!
Stretch marks? Still none on the stomach, but plenty on my thighs, butt and lower legs.
Best moment this week: Finding out Arlie is head down and getting ready to come out.  And setting up the birth plan and all that jazz.  It’s real now.  No going back.
Miss Anything? Sleep.  I would give anything for one good night of sleep.
Movement: She has been moving a lot more, which is so reassuring.  I feel her a lot in the evenings and in the early morning.  I love feeling her move.  I also love when she shoves a foot or her butt out of the top of the bump.
Food cravings: Last night I had my first legitimate craving.  I actually make M go to the store to get me the crunchiest potato chips he could find.  And they were delicious.
Anything making you queasy or sick: I hate chicken so much.
Have you started to show yet? Yes, it is even bigger than last week.
Gender:  Baby GIRL!
Labor Signs: Having a few Braxton Hicks.  They aren’t hurting at all so thats good at least.
Symptoms:  Stupid stuffy nose.  I am so tired of this.  And now I am experiencing swollen feet and hands.  And no sleep at all.
Belly Button in or out? Almost completely flat.  I’m not sure if the last little bit is going to pop out or not.
Wedding rings on or off?  On but soooo tight.  It leaves a mark when I wear it.
Happy or Moody most of the time:  Fairly happy.  The relief of not working in a job I hate is so nice.  Plus I am just so excited for the next few weeks!
Looking forward to: Thanksgiving tomorrow, seeing my sister and my nephew tomorrow, my shower on Saturday and then the appointment with the specialist next week.  We are moving forward so fast  now!  So much to look forward to!


31 Weeks

Holy crap, less than 60 days left.  I am technically at 59 days right now, which is completely bananas.  I think I was really fortunate to be pregnant during the time that I am because the last part of the pregnancy will be during the holiday season, which seems to fly by as it is.  Add in the pregnancy, and time seems to go by much quicker, which I am so thankful for. 

My house is a complete mess right now because I am moving everything around.  We are trying to do a deep clean and get everything as ready as possible, but all I seem to have done is make a bigger mess.  I have a pretty strict plan for this weekend, starting tonight with crazy amounts of cleaning and organizing.  I just want everything to be clean and in its place.  We tend to be pretty messy, so my goal now is to get it clean and keep it clean.  I am also planning on cooking a million freezer meals for us and that will probably happen sometime next week.  Thank goodness for a holiday week.

I also started my new job this week.  I am pretty pleased with it so far.  I think I will be a little bored at times, but with a newborn and trying to navigate the transition between working and a working mommy, this should actually benefit me.  The people here are really nice and the pace is much slower and less frantic than where I was before.  I think that is more of a statement about my previous job as there was really not that much of a reason to have it be so frantic.  The really weird part to consider in the new job is that because of the weirdness and uncertainty of the birth situation, I could have two full months here for learning, or I could have as little as two weeks.  This concerns me a little, but not enough to have not taken the job sooo here I am.

How far along? 31 weeks 4 days
Total weight gain: I have no idea but my guess is somewhere around 30 pounds.  I have an exponential growth of weight gain in the last two weeks, so Monday’s appointment should be interesting.
Maternity clothes? It’s all I can do to even get dressed in the morning.  My maternity jeans are getting snug in the panel part and most of my dresses are pretty uncomfortable.  I am basically on a rotation of about 10 pieces.  It’s not ideal, but I’m so close to being done that it seems pointless and frivolous to purchase anything else.
Stretch marks? Still none on my stomach, but my thighs, lower legs and butt are riddled with them.  I’m not convinced my thighs will ever look normal again.  Its honestly one of the few things that bums me out at this point.
Best moment this week: We got SO much stuff in the mail this week because our baby shower is next week and I finally sent out the invitations.  It is so fun seeing stuff fly off the registry.  Especially because we really only put stuff on there that we truly needed, rather than a bunch of random crap.
Miss Anything? Just being able to move properly.  And sleep.  I am perpetually exhausted because I never really get to sleep.  I am occasionally getting some sleep in, but it is really broken up and breathing is so much harder than it was before.  Its a nasty combination.
Movement: She is clearly stronger and bigger.  I can feel her move almost all day, which is so stinking nice.  I have been waiting for this phase to start because it gives me so much more peace of mind.  She also has been doing huge rolls and shifts, which are both awesome and uncomfortable.  I can sit and watch my stomach bubble out and jiggle as she finds a place to hang out.
Food cravings: I am not really craving a whole lot right now…  I am currently sipping a glass of milk and eggnog mixed together and it is delicious.  I’ve also been eating a fried egg sandwich pretty much every single day now.  I love them.  SO delicious.
Anything making you queasy or sick: I am still off chicken and will likely be forever at this point.  Other than that, nothing else.  I am getting some bouts of queasiness lately which is a real throw back to first trimester.
Have you started to show yet? Yes, its huge.  I had another crazy growth spurt this week and now my bump is honestly bigger than I could even imagine.  I’m kind of scared and excited for any growth in the next two months.
Gender: GIRL!
Labor Signs: I don;t remember any BH this week, but that could be because I have been so stinking busy.
Symptoms: Stupid never ending stuffy nose.  And heartburn, I hate you so…
Belly Button in or out? Well, it is almost completely flat.  I have the tiniest of indents and it is so close to being totally flat.  It is also stretched beyond comprehension.
Wedding rings on or off? Still on…
Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy.  I am getting more and more excited and I kind of can’t wait to see what happens next.  I just love her so much already and I can’t wait to hold her and feel her in my arms. 
Looking forward to: So many things!  Next week I have a regular appointment, then the next day we meet with the maternity care coordinator to get pre-registered at the hospital and get a birth plan in my chart.  Then it is Thanksgiving and the unveiling of Arlie’s name, which is going to be so fun…  And then I have my baby shower next weekend and that leads us into the next week, where we have another level II ultrasound with the specialist to see what our plan in going to be.  I think these next 10 days are going to go by very quickly, which is great because the faster the better for me.

30 Weeks

I am sweating how quickly this is coming up.  Especially because we still have so much uncertainty in when we will actually be meeting miss Arlie.  So now we are down to anywhere from 3-10 weeks until she is here.  I am hoping for somewhere around 8 weeks.  That seems ideal to me, especially because that gives me two more months to get everything ready.

Last night M and I attended a tour of the hospital where we will give birth if we do not have to deliver with the specialist.  It was interesting and there was so much information.  The tour was actually done by a nurse that had worked at the hospital for 11 years and had been a nurse for 30.  She had a strange dry sense of humor and I seriously appreciated it.  We started out in a large room discussing the procedure for admittance, the types of things you should bring with you, the people allowed with you in the room, the food options, the supplies the hospital will provide, which entrance to use at what time, and a bunch of other stuff as well.  It was kind of overwhelming and afterwards the first thing M said to me was how scared it made him.  Bless his heart. 🙂

The things I found most interesting were the following:  They have a c-section rate that is 25 percent lower than the national average.  This is pretty cool and gives me hope that even with my strange conditions, I may still make it the natural route.  The other cool thing with the c-section information was that rather than rush you downstairs to an operating room, they have a two operating room suite on the labor and delivery ward.  So you only have to go about 10 feet if you ended up having a c-section.  This was comforting to me for some reason.

They use a system with purple bands for the people that are supposed to be your support people.  They allow 4 support people, including your significant other in the room with you at all times.  Basically, these purple banded people are the VIP’s of the birth.  For me and M, this isn’t really that relevant because other than my best friend, we do not plan on having anyone else at the birth.

They use a rule they refer to as “the golden hour”.  This means that for the first hour after birth, they want the baby to have skin to skin contact with you and there will be no other interruptions unless absolutely medically necessary.  This also includes c-sections.  This was so exciting for me.  I have been incredibly worried that if we end up with a c-section, that they would take her away from me immediately and I would miss that bonding time.  It also means that they will not allow visitors during that hour.  They are super supportive of mother and baby bonding and learning how to breastfeed without a bunch of interruptions.  I am loving all of this information.

The rooms were really nice and large, even the post partum rooms were pretty nice.  The best part about this is that they will discharge you after only 24 hours if you are ready.  This means even if you were to check in at 2 o’clock in the morning and gave birth at noon, they will still discharge you at 2 o’clock in the morning the next night if you want to be discharged.  I was really worried about being forced to stay in the hospital for 48 hours or longer, so this is pretty cool.

I’m not gonna lie, this was exhilarating and terrifying all at the same time.  I know it is getting close and this was the definitive proof that we are almost there.  Seeing the rooms and picturing us there made me so excited to get to the point where we are actually meeting Arlie.  I am so impatiently excited!

How far along? 30 weeks 3 days 
Total weight gain: This is now alarming.  It seems as though I am at somewhere between 25 and 27 pounds.  I seriously gained so much weight in two weeks.  The crazy part is that I didn’t feel particularly hungry during this time.
Maternity clothes? All I can fit into is maternity stuff.  I am so much more comfortable with no clothes at all, but that’s not really a practical option working in an office.
Stretch marks? Thighs, lower legs, butt.  None on my stomach yet.  I’m hoping it stays that way.
Sleep: I literally am surviving on about 5 hours every night.  Some nights I don’t really sleep at all.  I don’t feel particularly tired during the days, but I am sure that this will catch up with me pretty soon.
Best moment this week: Arlie has decided that the top part of my uterus is actually a pretty awesome place to hang out.  She spends a lot of her time jabbing various body parts out of the side of my stomach.  I love feeling her move and knowing that she is strong enough to poke out so much.
Miss Anything? Yesterday M and I purchased the seasonal Anchor celebration ale.  I wish I could try it now, but we bought it to celebrate after she gets here.  I definitely miss beer.  No other alcohol really as I wasn’t a big drinker before, but I do miss being able to sip on a beer sometimes.
Movement: She is definitely stronger and bigger.  I love how much I feel her and I love that she can wedge herself sideways at times.  I think this will probably get more and more uncomfortable but for now, I am really enjoying it.  She also has started responding if I poke her at all.  She protests if I give her a little poke and I love that I can interact with her right now.
Food cravings: I still want meat and milk.  I’m also craving apple pie for some reason.  I have no idea why.
Anything making you queasy or sick: I may never eat chicken again.  Also, I am now experiencing heartburn so spicy foods are being banned.
Have you started to show yet? Yes, there is no mistaking that I am pregnant.
Gender: GIRL!
Labor Signs: A few braxton hicks over the last few days.  They are not painful, but it feels like my skin is stretching as far as it possibly can and that is a little uncomfortable.
Symptoms: My dang nose is always stuffed up and/or bleeding.  I really hope this is something that goes away after I give birth.  I am also hot all the time and I think this is contributing to my swelling issue.  And the heartburn.  Jeez, I have never experienced this before and it is awful. 
Belly Button in or out? It is on the verge of being completely flat.  It looks really weird and I am fascinated by it.
Wedding rings on or off? On, but again, I am not sure how much longer.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy.  Tomorrow is my last day at my job, which is awesome and kind of sad too.  I am going to miss the students a lot and one of the other employees here.  I really do enjoy the venue and the clients, but the rest of it sucks, so there is a mixture of feelings. 
Looking forward to:  So many things.  I am meeting with pediatricians tomorrow and that is pretty exciting.  We are getting pre-registered at the hospital next week and meeting with the maternal care coordinator.  And the most exciting thing of all is that my sister and her husband are coming for Thanksgiving with my nephew!  I haven’t seen them since April and my nephew was only 3 months old then.  I can’t wait to see him and how much bigger and funnier he is.  Love that the holidays are fast approaching and that leads into the best day ever, when Arlie gets here.

OBGYN Disappointment

I’ve been going to the same OB practice since 2007.  I had an amazing doctor, I loved her.  She had a midwife that was her practice partner (all the doctors are paired with a midwife) who was also amazing and sweet.  Dr. Hoshaw was there for me through a lot of stuff and never made me feel weird or crazy or stupid.  Fast forward to now…  Dr. Hoshaw and her midwife left the practice and now I have been shuffled between a number of different providers.  The practice wants you to meet all the doctors and midwives when you are pregnant so that you are semi familiar with the person who shows up at your birth.  When Dr. Hoshaw left, I became comfortable with one other doctor and she has been great.  However, because of the policy the practice has, I am often seeing other doctors and midwives.  This is how we ended up seeing one midwife twice, with both experiences being horrible.  She was unprofessional and kind of rude and the worst part is that she made me extremely uncomfortable.  Since the last appointment with this particular person, I have been trying to figure out how to address the possibility of her showing up at my birth.  Because everything is still so up in the air, we may not even be delivering in our hometown and may be delivering with the specialist, so this might not even come into play.  However, it is all I can focus on right now, so M and I talked about it and decided to ask the midwife we were meeting with yesterday what she thought we should do.  This is where it got weird…  She wanted to know which other provider we had an issue with, even though we asked not to say any names.  She really pushed on this one and eventually we just said who it was.  And from that point forward, the appointment was a waste of time.  She made both of us feel like assholes for not wanting to see or deal with this person again, and especially not at birth.  I’m not sure if she intended to make us feel badly, but that was the result of the conversation. 

This is not the first time one of the providers in this practice has made me feel silly or stupid for my concerns.  I would think that they would have some level of understanding, especially with our higher risk situation.  But it seems to be the opposite.  I mentioned my concern in my previous appointment that because of Arlie’s cord conditions I was very worried about a cord accident.  The response I got was that if a cord accident were to happen, there’s nothing I can do and the baby will probably just die.  I just don’t get it.  I am a first time mom with a previous loss and now we are in a situation where the baby has two unusual cord issues.  I have every right to be worried and to want to make sure that the care I am getting is the best possible.  I’m just really disappointed with the dismal level of understanding or compassion.  I expected my pregnancy experience to be different with this practice and now all I want to do is find a new doctor and finish up my care with a new person.

The weird thing is that with one doctor in particular and one of the midwives, I have felt extremely comfortable and secure.  If either of them were to show up at the birth, I would be thrilled.  I just wish the patient understanding were a little better.  The best I can hope for now is that one of the doctors or midwives that I am comfortable with are the ones that show up for the birth.  

29 Weeks

Another week that seemed to fly by and drag all at the same time.  I am BORED with work.  Because I only have a week or so left here, I literally have nothing to do.  I have already prepped the person coming in with very detailed how-to’s.  Now I just sit here and wait for something to do.  I was always too efficient for the job, but even more so now that I am leaving. 

Last night we had our first birthing class.  We have to take the classes in a neighboring town because when I scheduled it for us, M was working his old job and this was the only night and time that would work.  I am seriously regretting this decision.  The neighboring town is gross, I don’t know any other way to describe it.  There are 5 other couples in the class, which was fine…  Except for the two husbands that would not SHUT UP.  Oh my goodness, that was painful.  I am not joking, one of the husbands complained about how HE wasn’t getting any sleep and could the instructor please tell him why that was happening.  WTF!?!  The other husband that I was annoyed with was sitting in front of me and M and I had to spend two hours trying not to look at his ass crack, which was constantly on full display for everyone else in the class.  He interjected constantly, correcting the instructor multiple times.  It took nearly all of my strength to not have an outburst and tell these two idiots to shut the hell up.  Other than this, the class was actually pretty fun and informative.  I think being the oldest couple in the class was kind of interesting as well.  We are by no means old, but we are probably at least 7-10 years older than everyone else in the class.  The other crazy part was that all 6 couples are having a girl.  The instructor said that she has been teaching the class for almost 30 years now and has never had that happen.  

The class had a lot of information and M and I had a nice conversation on the way home about what our labor strategies will be, based on some of the stuff we went over in the class.  We aren’t a particularly touchy couple, so there was some awkward time when we were supposed to be learning massage points and M and I were giggling like small children.  But we just aren’t a typical couple, so even though the class will definitely give us some tips, labor will likely be a unique experience for us.  Just as it is for all couples.  I’ll keep everyone updated on the next class.  This should be interesting.

How far along? 29 weeks 4 days
Total weight gain: Right around 20 lbs.  Hopefully I don’t go crazy in the next couple of months with weight gain.  I am not as crazy hungry as I was before, but I think this is partly because I feel full after about three bites of food now.
Maternity clothes? Yes, I just got two new shirts and one pair of pants.  I don’t want to buy anything else.
Stretch marks? Thighs, lower legs, butt.  Yuck.
Sleep: Um, never?  I toss and turn all night, then feel like a zombie for the rest of the day.  The worst part is that I am not even that tired at night when it is time to go to sleep, so I am still not falling asleep until 11ish.  It is also not helping that our younger dog has decided that she needs to get up and go out 17 times every night.  She is going to be a huge problem when the baby gets here.
Best moment this week: My sister bought us an Ergo carrier and that should be here soon.  I also finished the baby shower invites and I am going to send them out this week.  About a week ago I started working on a photo book of my nephew for my sister.  They are coming for Thanksgiving and I wanted to get them a Hanukkah gift, so I gathered up all the photos I am the the rest of my family had and made a little book for them.  It turned out really well and I am so excited to give it to them.
Miss Anything? I miss beer.  Again, I hate saying this because it makes me seem ungrateful to be pregnant, but I love beer and I see all the holiday ones coming out and it is so sad to be missing it.  Also, I miss falling asleep and sleeping soundly for hours.  I realize that this will be a distant memory for years now, but I have always loved sleep.
Movement:  A lot the last two days.  She is moving higher a lot more often and she seems to really like to jam her foot or heel out of the right side of my stomach.  I love being able to touch her and have that contact.  She has also been getting the hiccups, which is so stinking cute. 
Food cravings: I want hamburgers constantly.  I also could probably eat Mexican food every single day.  We now own about ten different kinds of hot sauce and salsa.  I love it so much. 
Anything making you queasy or sick: Chicken still.  It is so gross.  I hope turkey doesn’t fall into this category because I am so looking forward to Thanksgiving.
Have you started to show yet? Yes, and I think I had another growth spurt in the last couple of days.  I’m going to take a 30 week pic on Sunday or Monday and I’ll post it here.
Gender: Girl!  Miss Arlie Mason. 🙂
Labor Signs: I’ve had a few noticeable braxton hicks in the last couple of days.  They are not painful at all, but it gets a little uncomfortable.
Symptoms: Stuffy and bloody nose.  Apparently this is now causing me to snore, which is probably the most embarrassing thing that has occurred so far in regards to pregnancy for me.  I am also tired and I’m having a hard time moving around now.  I just feel awkward in my body and a little unstable.  My hands and feel at swelling a bit as well.
Belly Button in or out? It is still in the Crater Lake phase, with the rim of it starting to pop out too.  It changes shape throughout the day and it is really weird to see.
Wedding rings on or off? Still on, but this won’t last.  We are going to buy a cheap plain band this weekend because my ring is currently making a mean indent on my finger. 😦
Happy or Moody most of the time: Its definitely a mix.  I am moody at work because I am so bored and annoyed with it, but pretty happy at home.  Our house is slowly getting into order and it is just the best feeling to have it start to come together.
Looking forward to:  Routine appointment on Monday, then my last week of working here.  And next weekend we are taking a trip to the coast!  Wheee.  I love going to the coast and this will probably be the last time we get to do it before Arlie gets here.  

All You Need is Love

I’ve been thinking about this for the last month or so and I am finally getting around to writing about it.  I am so incredibly in love with my husband, it is disgusting.  I was always really in love with him before, but man these pregnancy hormones combined with the fact that I am growing OUR CHILD inside of me has really pushed the love to a new level.  I look at him and think to myself, “How did I get so lucky to find and marry someone I like so much?”  We have been together for almost 5 years now and I keep waiting for the day to come when I don’t feel so strongly. I wonder if my love will lessen or fade, but having gotten this far with him and having had so many amazing experiences with him, I just don’t think it is going to happen.  When I think about our future, I think about 20 years from now and rather than it being a possibility, I see it more as a reality.  He is just plain wonderful and I am so lucky to have him.

But it doesn’t just stop with M…  I am beyond in love with Arlie.  I don’t even know her yet and I love her.  I used to feel this crazy overwhelming love and protectiveness for my dog, and this trumps that feeling by about a million.  Don’t get me wrong, I still very much love and care about my dog, but this love I feel for Arlie is unlike anything I have ever experienced.  It is not even something I can describe.  The weirdest thing about this love is that I know it is going to be even bigger and more intense once I meet her. 

And finally, I love my best friend, my soul sister.  She is someone I needed in my life, but I didn’t even know it.  We met purely by happenstance, and it was a fortunate event for both of us.  She has been there for me in so many ways and it is my turn to support her in whatever ways she needs.  I am grateful everyday to have met her and to be able to call her my friend.  She will be the most amazing second mother to my children and they will grow up knowing that they can go to her for anything.  I cannot be more grateful for her presence in my life.


Christmas Cards


We decided to send out a Christmas card this year from Mason, Winger and baby Arlie.  And this is the super cute photo we are using!  They look sad, but it was mostly because we were forcing them to sit still for more than 10 seconds.  Eventually Mason snuggled up next to the bump and hung out.  I am so stinking excited to have Arlie and Mason meet.  It will honestly be one of the highlights of having her here. 🙂

The Name Game

M and I have had the name Arlie picked out for months, probably since we were around 9 weeks pregnant.  The middle name was a struggle to choose as we didn’t want to offend anyone.  We started with the name Kathryn, both his grandmother’s name and my very best friend in the world’s name.  But M was worried that his father’s side of the family would be offended if we chose to use a name from his mother’s side.  So Kathryn got shelved, sadly.  I suggested Carolyn next.  This was my great aunt’s name, but she was more like my grandmother.  The sweetest and kindest person I have ever had in my life, I found this a fitting and meaningful middle name.  Because we weren’t sharing the first name with people, I ran our middle name choice of Carolyn past some of my family members and was quickly told that this would offend my grandmother.  I am not close with my grandmother, and in fact I am not really a fan of hers, so I was not concerned with this.  However, this was brought up over and over again to me and M and I got tired of dealing with the comments (pretty much exactly why we aren’t telling people the first name yet), so Carolyn was off the table.  I spent a few days debating whether or not I even cared if she had a middle name at all and finally decided that it was important to me to honor someone or something by using their name as a middle name.  This led me to a great name and one that will always mean so much to me.  Miss Arlie will be name Arlie Mason, after my amazing first basset hound, Mason.  I know it is kind of weird to name my first born baby after my dog, but he is so much more than a dog to me.  He has been my companion and best friend for 11 years now and I love him fiercely.  I was always concerned with his memory fading for me and I am so glad to have him be honored and remembered forever in my daughter’s name.  My hope is that she will have enough time with Mason to love him as well. 

So far we haven’t told anyone other than my sister and my best friend, K.  My parents are constantly bothering me about the name and trying to get us to tell them.  It has been really annoying so far.  M’s parents are much less annoying and they aren’t bugging us at all.  For the last three months, M and I have been working on a project for a community Christmas display.  Long story, but about 20 years ago, my grandfather made a bunch of Who’s and scenes from How the Grinch Stole Christmas.  After he died, my family donated the display to a larger display in town.  The larger display was recently moved to a new site and community members were asked to do repairs and re-painting of various parts of the display.  M and I took on all of the Who’s, about 36 of them.  A number of the Who’s were named after my siblings and cousins and we decided to keep that tradition and add some new names, specifically spouses and children that have come into the family.  This meant that for M and my Who’s we would also be adding an “Arlie” Who.  My whole family helped out when we needed them in restoring the Who’s, and yesterday was the day we finally dropped them off.  My parents tried to stay to see what name we had chosen and I eventually sent them away.  I got a phone call later from my father saying that they were upset they didn’t get to learn the name.  To be quite honest, I am so freaking tired of them and the drama they cause over the smallest things.  They will find out the name when everyone else does and they should just back off until then.  We will reveal the name to them and the rest of our family members in two weeks.  Who knew there would be so much drama in choosing a name?

28 Weeks

This week is finally going fast.  Maybe it is because I had to work all weekend so Tuesday seemed like Friday…  I don’t know.  What I do know is that I am tired.  I had to stay home yesterday because little miss Arlie likes to wedge herself onto a nerve in my back.  This caused me so much pain that I couldn’t sit or stand or lay down.  I honestly didn’t know what to do.  Eventually she moved and the pain and pressure was reduced and I was able to get some sleep, but man it was uncomfortable.

I do believe that I am nesting hard core.  I want to get everything done RIGHT NOW.  I don’t think that M understands this urgency, and that is frustrating.  I just want to be as ready as possible.  And it doesn’t help that the end game of this pregnancy is still so up in the air.  I have an overwhelming urge to get everything done by the first week of December, just in case we go back to the specialist and he says she needs to come out sooner rather than later.  I also really don’t want to be scrambling at the last minute trying to get everything in order and together.  I like to walk into Arlie’s room and see order.  That calms some of my fears.  I think that part of my frantic nesting is because that is the only thing I have control over at this point.  I have no control over the birth or when it is going to happen, but I can make sure that our house is ready to go for when she does get here.  Pregnant lady problems.


How far along? 28 weeks 4 days
Total weight gain: 19 pounds.  I was glad to see the number at my appointment on Monday.  I think I can handle gaining more weight, but I was seriously worried about gaining a lot of weight every week from here on out.
Maternity clothes? I’m either in maternity clothes or mostly naked.  Not in public or course, but I hate having clothes on at home.  It’s just uncomfortable and my skin always feels like it needs to breathe.  Plus, I am hot all.the.time.
Stretch marks? So I noticed last night that not only are they on my thighs and lower legs, but all over my butt.  Ugh, sometimes I wonder what M thinks when he looks at me now….
Sleep: I feel like sleep is never going to happen again.  I just can’t fall asleep some nights and other nights I fall asleep just fine but wake up in the middle of the night for hours at a time.  I want to pile a bunch of pillows and blankets on the floor in the living room and sleep there some nights.
Best moment this week: This actually happened this morning, but when M woke me up this morning to go to work, Arlie was not moving at all.  As soon as he started talking, she started wiggling like crazy.  I think she recognizes his voice.  It was so cute and funny.  I can’t wait to meet her.  I also passed my GD test this week!  I was 100 percent expecting to fail it but I passed all three checks and I am SOOOOO happy.  Bread and candy are back in my life!
Miss Anything? Sleep.  Not being a sweaty mess all the time.
Movement:  She definitely has times where she moves a lot and other times where she is not very active.  I think she is getting into some sort of sleeping pattern, but it seems like she is going to be a baby that sleeps most of the middle of the day and then goes buck wild starting at 8:00 pm.  This should be interesting.
Food cravings: Milk.  I have started buying 2 gallons at a time because I am downing one whole gallon every two to three days.  If I add cereal into the mix, I could honestly go through a gallon every day.  I also really want Mexican food all the time.  I think M is ok with this, but I am dreading the day when he gets tired of it. 
Anything making you queasy or sick: Chicken.  Sometimes water. I am off of tomatoes and red peppers.  Also spinach and most lettuce tastes so good, but it makes me sooo sick afterwards.
Have you started to show yet? Yes.
Gender: Baby GIRL!
Labor Signs: I haven’t noticed any BH this week, but again I have been incredibly busy and that hasn’t left me with a lot of time to concentrate on all the weird things my body is doing.
Symptoms: Stuffy nose.  (I have to be honest, this is the only physical thing about pregnancy that I dislike.  I hate having my nose plugged up and it is constant.) I’m also having trouble bending over at all. 
Belly Button in or out? It is now to the point where it is very shallow and it has a small nub protruding out of the middle.  It looks like Crater Lake. (Yay Oregon reference!)  
Wedding rings on or off? On.  I have the most beautiful ring in the world.  However, it was very cheaply made and the finish (which is a special metal that I am not allergic to) is starting to wear off.  I dread the day when I have to get a new ring, but I am quickly heading in that direction.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Its a mix.  I feel happy when I am thinking about the future and Arlie.  And when I think about the holidays.  But the rest of the time I find myself pretty frustrated.  I think my tolerance for dummies and bs is not there anymore and I am barely able to keep it together in frustrating situations.
Looking forward to: I have two weeks of my current job left and then I am done with this place and I am so excited about that.  I am completely done with Arlie’s room, so I will post pictures of that very soon.  And I can’t wait for the holidays!  I am a HUGE Christmas person.  I love it so much and this year is even better because of Arlie.  November 1st = Christmas music in my house! 🙂